Intimate Wedding Details

Before diving in, you should know this is our third and final blog in the Unveiled 2019 Wedding Trend series. Previously we have taken a peek at the upcoming  2019, food trends and wedding themes. If you’re in the midst of planning your wedding or simply dreaming about your future wedding, you should REALLY check out these two blogs. You will NOT regret it. Now on to those intimate wedding details…

Your wedding day is filled with big moments shared between two people in love and their family and closest friends. This day is dedicated to the declaration of your love for one another in front of all who will witness! Let’s take a step back and look at all of the swoon-worthy, intimate wedding details, that can be shared between you and your soon-to-be spouse. Specifically, in this blog, we will talk about the benefits and disadvantages of choosing private vows or a first look.

Private Vows

If declaring your love in front of a room full of people isn’t something you are too keen on, then private vows might be for you! There a multiple ways to incorporate this intimate wedding detail into your day, even if you are not having a first look. If you aren’t planning on seeing each other before the ceremony, private vows can be written and read by each individual as they get ready or you can read your vows to each other while you stand on opposite sides of a wall (or door). If you are planning to have a first look, often the private vows are be read to each other.

What are some benefits to this intimate wedding detail? I’m going to let you know below!

  • If you’re shy it is a great way to express your promises to your spouse without feeling the pressure of public speaking.

  • You don’t have to censor your feelings! This is for your spouses (& photographer & videographer’s) eyes and ears ONLY. You can let your deepest, and sometimes inappropriate, feelings fly.

  • The photos and videos that come from these moments will have you sobbing now and in 20 years when you show your children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

  • Just imagine how romantic the moment will be between you both. As your soon-to-be partner professes their love for you in a very private and intimate setting with words written for you and only you.

Intimate wedding details

First Look

A first look is when the couple sees each other prior to the ceremony. This is an intimate wedding detail that creates a moment between the two of you, away from the eyes of family and friends. While this is not for everyone, there are many wonderful reasons why couples choose to have a first look and many equally wonderful reasons they choose not to. I have included a small pro and con list below:


  • If you are anxious or nervous this is a wonderful time to shake those feelings. It can make you more present and calm during the actual ceremony.
  • If you’re a crier, like me, you can touch up your make up for the ceremony!
  • Picture location can be anywhere you choose. If you want to find a cool and unique location, that is not by your ceremony, you can choreograph the backdrop.
  • With a first look, you can complete photos prior to the ceremony and not be absent during the cocktail hour! Bridal party, family portraits, and couple photos can also be done at this time.
  • It is one more way to create an intimate wedding detail between you and your partner. Of course, this is your day, so you can choose to have these private and romantic moments between the two of you.


  • Your guests will miss out on the moment when you first lock eyes on each other.
  • It is a tradition to wait until the ceremony to see your bride on the wedding day.
  • That one moment can be a defining moment at the beginning of your marriage that you want to share with the ones you love.
  • You may have to touch up your own makeup if you don’t have someone onsite.
Intimate wedding details
Intimate wedding details

Left: Sarah DeCristoforo Top Right: Emily Wenzel Photography Bottom Right: Maria Adams Photography 

First Look Alternatives

Father-daughter first looks are one more way to capture the bond between a dad and daughter on her wedding day. We are gushing over the misty-eyed fathers as they see their little girls all grown up!

There are many more swoon-worthy and intimate wedding details to be captured! First looks can be between a bride and her tribe, the groom and his right-hand men, and anyone else they hope to include in these special moments. Take a peek below at some of our favorite reactions!

Intimate wedding details will naturally come with your big day. It is up to you and your partner to create the most meaningful and loving interactions based on your beliefs, emotions, and traditions. Don’t let anyone tell you how or what you should do! The beauty of marrying your best friend (besides the getting married part) is creating a day where your love shines the way you want it to!

Ready to plan those intimate details? Call us today at 509-466-0667 to talk to one of our event coordinators and help you make those nuptial visions a reality!